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What is Neuro Lingusitic Programming?

“NLP is the use of models and patterns of successful people or genius that can be used to improve flexibility and choice in any situation in your life.” Aaron Waugh

“Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) is a broad field that began in the mid 1970s modelling excellent communicators – finding out how they did what they did so well. NLP models how we do what we do. In essence it studies the structure of subjective experience – how we create our own unique internal world from what we see, hear and feel, and how in turn our mental world shapes what we allow ourselves to see, hear and feel.

NLP is made up of three parts; What is NLP
Neuro is our neurology – how we think and feel
Linguistic is language – what we say, how we say it and how we are influenced by what we hear
Programming – is how we act to achieve our results.”
Reference; Joseph O’Connor, Leading with NLP

Our neurology, and unconscious –is “programmed” from birth by the things we hear, see, feel and our experiences. The words we hear, or use relate our experiences back to ourselves and others. When triggered, the programmes run automatically.

NLP provides a set of tools to quickly “recode” the programmes to change their impact in our lives, or to enhance them. NLP provides tools to give anyone the ability to choose their thoughts and feelings deliberately, creating useful and beneficial behaviours. It works fast because it is changing programmes at the unconscious level.

NLP is fast, effective and often affects immediate change. Through neuroplasticity, we know that the pathways and patterns of thinking, behaviours and conditions can shift quickly. As a result NLP is  highly effective with PTSD and other disorders of the mind, as well as goal achievement and removing limitations created in the mind. New Code NLP is primarily content free. We work with the pattern and code of the problem, not the content – or story – that relates to the problem, making it an incredibly useful tool for overcoming conditioning and traumatic events.

Contact us to find out more, and discover how the application of NLP can change your life.

Pivot Away from Negative Emotions

NLP & Life Coaching Wellington

Our mind skills tip for today is one way you can change negative thoughts. Remember you are in charge of your mind, your mind doesn’t have to control you.

We all have negative thoughts and emotions. It’s part of the human experience. But there are days when one negative thought can lead to the next one, and another one and another one. And the emotions that come with it just get more annoying, and stronger, until pretty soon what started as a simple thought has ruined not only your day, but your entire life.

There are loads of strategies to think positive:  go for a walk, or flip the thought, but what if the thinking spiral has got you by the short n curlies and you haven’t even had your first coffee? And those emotions have loaded the thinking with a whip and self judgement to help you beat yourself up.

Did you know that human beings are the only creatures that can have a thought about a thought? It can go something like this….“Today is going to be a good day. I said that yesterday and look how that turned out. No, today I’m going to start positive. Oh I’m an idiot, positive thinking doesn’t work. Crap, I’m stupid for calling myself an idiot. I’m such a muppet for calling myself stupid. Stupid is as stupid does. Dumb ass is more like it” And soon you’re feeling quite dumb and totally demotivated to do anything today. Its 7.00am and your day has already turned to crap.

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Lemonade From Lemons

Have you ever heard the old proverb, make lemonade from lemons..
Do you think you get lemons handed to you frequently? what do you do with them?

Our own negative thoughts can influence our lives and these are based on the filters that we utilise to make up who we are.

We make up stories in our own minds to think the worst, and realistically, it is our choices which make us betray ourselves, and our loved ones by going down the rabbit hole of negative thoughts and actions. We blame others for what we derive from our own thoughts and emotional states.

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Mind Your Buts

Today we’re going to look at a linguistic part of NLP, but you might already be using it to your advantage. Learning this NLP language pattern is useful for improving communication and getting your message across.

NLP WellingtonHow often do you notice the word “but” joining sentences. And have you ever noticed that your mind doesn’t focus on what came before the but?

For example “I know you’ve worked really hard this year, putting in extra hours and going above and beyond expectations but there’s a lot you can do to improve.”

“I love you but when are you going to come home on time.”

“I really appreciate all you do, but the lawns still need mowing.”

“You’ve done a great a job on cleaning your room, but your wardrobe floor is a mess.”

‘But’ works like twink, Wite-Out, erasing everything we hear before the word ‘but’ and leaving us helplessly focused on whatever followed it – the bad news. Your mind tends to negate everything that came before the but, and even if you register it, you will retain what came after the but.     Continue reading

Visualise With Ease

NLP Wellington

Do you know how to visualise your goals? Can you see them clearly? And what do you do if you can’t see pictures? The concept of visualisation has been around for quite some time now. Its one of the most popular applications the field of sports, personal development, meditation, law of attraction etc. And for many people it gets great results. But what about those of us who can’t seem to visualise and that clear picture of what we’re striving for? Does it really work for anybody?Continue reading

Values and Judgements

NLP Wellington

What do you value? Is work more important than your family?

Do you want peace and harmony in your home life or at work?  Values are things that stem from what we learn as children, and from that we make decisions and judgements on what we think is either right or wrong.

In any given situation our values predicate an outcome of choice, whether good or bad.  How you may treat people at work may not be the same as how you treat people at home or in
other situations, and our values dictate why this occurs.

Your values at home may be differently stacked when you are at work. Its like the stack of blocks that we may have played with as children, that is constantly being added and removed as we change our mind about how they should look.  For example, if you treat people at work with respect, why do you not do the same at home? you say to yourself that the stakes are much higher at work, but are they any different?  Continue reading

Dealing with Negative Emotions

Emotions – sometimes they’re just a pain in far too many ways. So what do you do with them?

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The joy of being human is that we get to experience a wide range of emotions, that allow us to compare and contrast our different states. Emotions are how our nonconscious mind gets our conscious attention.

Emotions in themselves are just an effect of neurochemical structure. No more, no .less. But these emotions enable us to feel and apply meaning to the world.Continue reading

RAS – a Beautiful Bundle of Neurons

NLP Life Coach Wellington

What are you paying attention to? What are you noticing? And how do you get to choose where to place your attention? Focus flows where your mind goes, or does it?

The reticular activating system, or RAS, is a bundle of neurons that starts close to the top of the spinal column and extends upwards around two inches. All of your senses (except smell, which goes to our brain’s emotional centre) are wired directly to this bundle of neurons that’s about the size of your little finger.

This little bit of brain matter is responsible for filtering the massive amounts of information your sensory organs are constantly throwing at it and selecting the ones that are most important for your conscious mind to pay attention to.

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Path forward

NLP Life Coach Wellington

Have you ever got so far along the path towards getting what you wanted and yet not quite got it?
Have you noticed how much you’ve already achieved this year? Or like many, have you noticed the year has almost disappeared and there is still too much to do? Today we’re going to look at ways to realign your goals or outcomes for success.

As I tick off another outcome booked and paid for, and look forward to the new adventures coming up, I decided it was also useful to an interim stocktake on what has and has not happened this year.

The 1st quarter training went well and was loads of fun. I bought a few more treasures and we’re booked to go to Sydney to work with Tony Robbins in September. Our clients have all had amazing successes and achieved the outcomes they wanted with NLP. We’ve found our communications and social media specialist, and worked on some great change projects.  So I’ve ticked off most of the outcomes I set for myself and am feeling rather smug.  Although when I did the outcomes setting process it took time to get the strategies and alignment in place. The things I have yet to achieve still need work.

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