How difficult is it for you to achieve long term success? Whether its improving your relationships, financial situation, sports and health goals, or even a new way of being in the world, sometimes it can seem like you’re going backwards. Setbacks happen and there is a reason why.

Our brains have two primary commands – to keep the body safe, and to conserve energy. Our minds cannot store energy the way our muscles do. As part of this, the brain has a set point – its called homeostasis.

It’s like your brain has a thermostat that has been set to 20 degrees. When we apply new changes of thinking or behaviour, it needs more energy or power and will increase the temperature to say, 25 degrees. Homeostasis then kicks in to make sure the set point of 20 degrees to reduce the energy consumption.

Learn to up level your performance with an NLP strategy using sub modalities. What are the limiting thoughts in your mind costing you? How valuable is your freedom when you overcome them, and they no longer affect you? For those of you who have worked with us, you will know how quickly we can remove limitations created in your mind. We spent years learning and mastering new code NLP, so our clients can get fast results to significant change.

New code NLP is content free. This means we only need an overview to understand how the programme has been coded in your mind. For traumatic or catalyst events, this is incredibly useful. Revisiting the story or memory only imbeds it deeper into your mind. And the memory is your perception of the event that happens – remember your mind likes to create meaning.

I have been recently listening to Mind Rules, a book by John Medina. In it he states, “Multitasking, when it comes to paying attention, is a myth”. Now, you may think that you multitask but what you really do is switch brain tasks based on what we are wanting to perform at any moment in time which can take the brain a large fractions of seconds to switch… You may have your phone in front of you, your computer may be loaded with lots of different screens or browser tabs, and you switch between them constantly…and wonder why you may feel tired at the end of the day, and felt like you have achieved nothing.

For many people, knowing what they want is a bit of a hurdle – or a dilemma. While our two weekend workshop – Create Your Future Now – is designed to give you NLP & mind skills and life strategies to accelerate your success and achieve your goals– its useful to know where your success is – or what you want. And many who attend, come with no idea of what they want.

I love road trips. The day before I make sure the petrol tank is full, I check the tyres and water levels, I have my bags packed ready to go, and I have a destination in mind. I will probably give the GPS the coordinates of that destination. It and I know where I’m going. And its often somewhere I’ve never been before.

Not knowing what you want is like not having a destination. You don’t know where you’re going to end up. However, I’d like you to consider that you do know how to find out what you want.

We live in a world of social media claims of instant millionaires and perfect bodies. Perfectly presented photographs and idyllic holiday shots. The world is at our fingertips – full of positivity and instant gratification. Our brains delete that people can post anything they like, using photo editing and perfect copywriting to hook us in. They show the best of themselves and their lives, and certainly not any negativity.

The social media perfect highlights reel is the leading cause of low self-esteem and depression in our youth. Due to the social nature of our need for acceptance, they self judge their lives against the perfection others portray. And even as adults we strive for perfection and to be the digital reflection we use to distract ourselves.

Do you know that in relationships, we have a tendancy to reflect patterns of behaviour?  A pattern can be reflected by each other in many ways, some of which is good, and some negative. The pattern or behaviour can mean one thing to one person, and yet mean something completely different to another.

As couples, there are shared reflective patterns which can be detrimental to our relationship, unless one calls it out by noticing what’s happening.  The patterns may include being too assertive or passive, becoming self justifying, being too giving, or even ignoring our partner. This can lead to relationships breaking down, as we reflect the negative, and forget to affirm the positive.

All of these behaviours always have a positive intent; self protection, protection of another, avoiding arguments, not wanting to hurt someone, etc, however our positive intent is not always useful to ourselves or the other person.

Fear can create strong signals of response when we’re in emergencies – for instance, if we are caught in a fire or are being attacked. This is a response to danger and is designed to keep us safe.

Fear can also run when you’re faced with non-dangerous events coming up, like exams, public speaking, a new job, a date, or even a party. It’s a natural response to a threat that can be either perceived or emotionally real.

Anxiety is a word we use for some types of fear that are usually to do with the thought of a threat or something going wrong in the future, rather than right now. Continue reading